Known Donor

Once adoption was off the table, I was faced with the decision of using either anonymous or open identity sperm donor. Open identity donors indicate a willingness to be contacted once the child has turned 18, but it's not guaranteed. Anonymous donors are just that, anonymous, however, not opposed to future contact. For me, the choice was a no-brainer, I would choose an open identity donor... only as a last result.

Unlike adoptees, whose primary question is often why their birth parents gave them up, donor- conceived children are typically focused on learning the donors' identity – and whatever it might reveal about their own. My ideal situation was to find a private donor (identity known to me) that I knew something about. Heaven for bid something should happen to my donor, I will be able to provide my child with information about the man that helped make me a mommy.

My donor...
Born in 1968, a third generation Kern County native grew up just south of Bakersfield. After graduating from high school, he discovered his talent for drawing and went on to San Diego State University to earn a BA in Arts and Applied Design. In 1995 he enrolled in the School of Design at north Carolina State University in Raleigh where he later received a Masters in landscape Architecture. While at NCSU, he began taking painting classes and found that he was drawn to San Joaquin Valley landscapes as his subject. His studies took him up and down the East Coast, Alaska, Europe, and South America. After graduation, he began a landscape design business. Along with design, he was commissioned to do local landscapes and murals. He is currently the Director of Education and Special Events at an art museum and continues to be in demand for residential landscape design and painting commissions. (Educational/professional bio not written by me.)