Choice Mom Gathering

I attended a Choice Moms gathering in Santa Monica... it was a small gathering of about 15 women who were all at various stages: thinking, trying, and being.  It was nice to be able to meet like-minded women for discussion... particularly about the inevitable 'daddy question' - I didn't realize it was weighing so heavily on my mind until I began to cry.
The drive home allowed me ample time to process my thoughts... here's what I took from the night:

*Noa can create a flower (in lieu of a lopsided family tree) to acknowledge the important people in her life, past and present.  Thank you, Mikki, for this suggestion.


Sample taken from www.choicemoms.org

*It's not too early to read books to Noa about the many types of families... luckily she loves books!

*Psychologists recommend parents affirm their child's feelings about 'daddy' ... children need to be heard, and their feelings aren't in any way soothed by having them explained away.  We need to think less about "fixing" our child's grief and more about showing an appreciation for their feelings.

*Not only will Noa have 'daddy' questions, but other kids will have questions too... something I hadn't even thought of.